Jack,
I had the same problem as you. Drove me nuts. I finally replaced the smoke alarm with a photoelectric model that has a delay button. (First Alert makes one with an escape light for around twenty dollars at the Big Box store, Twelve dollars without a light.)
Wikipedia says, "An ionization type smoke detector is generally cheaper to manufacture than an optical smoke detector; however, it is sometimes rejected because it is more prone to false (nuisance) alarms than photoelectric smoke detectors." So look for a photoelectric smoke detector.
As a suggestion, search on "
battery smoke detector with silencer". The big box stores, department stores, Amazon all carry them.
Once you have the alarm switched out, your home will be peaceful again. Nothing like restoring a little domestic tranquility to a confined space!!!